"...what's going on," is the first thing out of his mouth, when he sees the looks on his parents' faces. Maybe he should already know, but — he doesn't.
No movies rated above G! No interaction with women unless supervised! No Internet, and they'll check your computer to see if you're looking at unauthorized material! No rock, rap, pop, country, Broadway, "gay culture," or contemporary Christian music! No gambling! Random drug tests! Clothing should not be countercultural or associated with gay culture! Hair should not cross the collar, eyebrows, or ears, and it should not be in a ponytail!
"Gay dudes are like-- feminine and shit. Not that there's anything wrong with being feminine-- honestly, this entire concept is so fucking homophobic, you don't have to recover from being gay, it's okay to want to fuck men-- but I don't wear eyeliner, I don't care about shoes, I don't swish--"
("Language," Asher's mom says to herself.)
"It was long-distance for eighteen months," his mother says.
"She literally lives in Canada," his father says.
"And she was." His mother's face twists up from the effort of trying to figure out a way to politely say it.
"Well, she was very intellectual," his father says, "and not very, well, feminine, was she?"
"Language," his mother chides.
"And she was very... quiet," his father says. "And not very lively."
"She barely talked to us at all!" his mother says.
"And she was-- how do I put this delicately-- " his father says.
"She was fat," his mother says.
"Well, it's not just the fat," his father says judiciously. "It was also the acne. And the abysmal dress sense."
Meanwhile--
Mom and Dad,
I'm writing this email to tell you that I appear to be a homosexual. I understand this may come as a disappointing surprise to you, and I'm sorry.
I have tried to recover on my own and been unsuccessful. My research suggests that True Directions is the non-Christian program with the best track record of success. (Unfortunately, the options for specifically Jewish programs are limited.) The tuition is reasonable and scholarships are available. I understand that True Directions is unlikely to build my college application the way that the other summer options we discussed would, but early treatment for homosexuality leads to improved outcomes. I hope you can agree that we should deal with this problem as quickly as possible.
With your permission, I'll apply to admissions for the summer session.
I love you.
--Lev
Lev,
Your mother and I understand and agree. It might make it harder for you to get into Harvard, but some things are more important, like your ability to experience a normal sexuality and real love.
We're also impressed by the True Directions website and their track record of success, and that kosher food is available. Money might be tight for a while, but we will make this a priority. If you bring your prep books, you can study during your downtime, and that will free up time for more extracurricular activities during the year.
--Abram
By the first day of camp, his hair is shorter than it's been since freshman year and his clothes don't feel like they're his and he's spent the intervening time downloading as much tolerable but within the rules music as he can and he isn't wearing any makeup at all no matter how much he would like to be.
As ways to spend a summer go, this sucks, and not in a fun way.
Asher spends the three months before ex-gay camp starts dancing as much as he can. He completely stops doing homework and scrapes out B's and C's by getting 100% on every test. He pirouettes in the lunch line and does arabesques while doing the dishes. His muscles are sore like they haven't been since he was ten and his form is flawless and he's bad at not thinking about having to take three months off.
Most of his practice music is classical anyway. He has plenty of music to listen to that's within the rules.
Lev is pretty sure he can't fix himself on his own, so he lets himself indulge before ex-gay camp. He thinks a lot about the guy in his math class with the amazing smile, how smart he is and how kind. He jerks off to his carefully hidden collection of gay porn when his parents think he's doing his homework. He thinks about how nice it would be to kiss a guy, to hold his hand, to cuddle with him and wake up in the morning and know that you're together.
Family dinners are stilted and awkward until Lev discovers he can claim he has too much homework to eat with the family.
Everyone is relieved.
When Asher gets out of the car at True Directions, he almost does a jeté entrelacé, and then he remembers and kicks a rock in irritation.
He has a set of needles and pins and a slightly ridiculous amount of embroidery floss and two spools of thread, no jewelry clasps or hooks but a handful of charms, six books three of which are disguised as different books, a sketchpad, and a whole bunch of empty postcards from places he'd rather be than here.
He keeps his head down and his body language small.
Why are there three hot guys at ex-gay camp. This is the first time Lev has ever seen a guy his age in real life and known that he was gay and some of them are hot and now he keeps having thoughts about kissing all three of them and it is not okay. How is he supposed to recover from homosexuality under these conditions.
He imitates his father's voice. "'Asher, I know you had a girlfriend for two years, but have you considered that your girlfriend was overweight and had some skin issues and therefore you couldn't possibly actually be attracted to her and you were probably using her as a beard to cover your homosexuality?'"
"What the fuck — I mean, I have definitely known gay guys with girlfriends, but usually they pick the prettiest and most inoffensive person they can and take her on dates to socially prescribed date locations and are perfect gentlemen who do everything right but never really have much to say about their girlfriends as people, which is the literal opposite of that —"
So apparently one of the hot guys is straight! And that leaves only two guys he could potentially actually kiss oh god he is going to die.
Lev is trying really hard not to think about what Sasha would look like sucking his cock while wearing makeup, and absolutely not succeeding.
As if summoned, Christine Parker appears.
"Hello, everyone!" Christine Parker says. "Welcome to True Directions. We're going to have an orientation in the group therapy room, and then I'll show you to your dorm so you can get unpacked and get ready for dinner."
The group therapy room has off-white hospital-style walls and massively uncomfortable chairs.
"The first step in recovery from homosexuality is admitting that you have a problem. Some of you"-- her eyes linger on Asher-- "have more trouble with this than others. So we'll begin orientation by going around the room and saying our names and an interesting fact or two about ourselves, and then saying 'I'm a homosexual.' I'll start. My name is Christine Parker, I like riding horses and organizing people's closets, and I used to be a homosexual."
The first three go. Andre, actor, dancer, homosexual. Clayton, who works retail and is a homosexual. Dolph, varsity wrestler and homosexual.
"My name is Asher. I'm a dancer and I have good taste in poetry and horrible taste in musicals. And I--"
He hesitates. He's not going to get out of here without saying it. It's a lie, but-- if he spends three months telling the truth, that he's straight, then he'll never get to go to New York.
"I am a homosexual."
"All right! Now I'm going to hand out your binders. Take one and pass them along."
When everyone has their binders, Christine says:
"On the first page, you'll see the five steps here at True Directions. First, admitting you're a homosexual, which some of you have finished right now. Round of applause for everyone!"
"Some of you haven't finished the first step yet, so you'll have extra work. The second step is rediscovering your gender identity. The third step is finding your root-- the thing that made you a homosexual. The fourth step is developing nonsexual intimacy with other men. The fifth step is finding appropriate intimacy with people of the opposite gender."
It occurs to Lev that ex-gay camp is going to involve talking about his feelings with hot guys other people, and discussing his sexuality with hot guys other people, and developing nonsexual intimacy with hot guys other people, and why can't ex-gay camp instead involve hiding under a table.
The fact that ex-gay camp is going to involve definitely platonic cuddling is probably the only thing it has going for it, except for the presence of other gay guys and also Asher (maybe. The heart is sort of suspicious. Either way, this ends well for Sasha.)
He smiles at Lev, who looks like he wants to curl up in a hole and stay there.
Lev feels awkward about choosing a bed and ends up with the last one available, which is (of course) next to Sasha.
He unpacks his clothes and his SAT prep books and his well-worn collection of thousand-page poorly written epic fantasy novels. He does his best to try to keep anyone from looking at them.
He doesn't know when he can get alone time. He's already twitchy.
"Once I'm more sure of where the line is on counterculture clothes I'm embroidering and patching the hell out of mine, but if you don't care you don't care. —note that I can add or extend pockets, assuming you have a shirt you don't care about that I can use for scrap fabric."
"Awesome!"
This seems like a good place for the internal pocket to go; he takes a pair of tiny scissors from the bag and starts cutting into the shirt. "So what were you planning on talking about? I meant what I said about wanting pictures of what you looked like before, by the way."
"Oh, I was just assuming we were at some point going to say something non-camp-approved. Also--"
He does four barrel turns.
"...damn.
And, yeah, you aren't wrong. I didn't want to mention this where they'd hear but I can add secret internal pockets to things, if you have something small and forbidden you might want to carry around." He threads a needle and gets to sewing up the pocket itself; he'll attach it to the inside of his pants in a moment.
"I can't think of anything right now, unless you can make a pocket that fits the ability to dance."
"The porn is all written, not visual, it's easier to hide that way, but I have some pictures of me the way I prefer to look hidden in a folder tree." Now that he's thought of it he's totally going to ask Natalie to send him a flash drive. He ties off the thread and starts sewing the pocket onto the inside of his pants, behind an external pocket so the stitches won't show.
Asher kneels at his feet, puts one hand on Sasha's upper thigh and wraps his other arm around Sasha's ass so that his hand is on Sasha's hip, and lifts Sasha onto his shoulder.
"I'm doing something that can't go on my college application this summer," Lev says, "so I have to do all my SAT studying this summer so I can have more time for extracurriculars during the school year so I can go to Harvard and stop living in a rat-infested apartment and not disappoint my parents."
After breakfast, Christine takes everyone to the football field.
"Lev, Asher, you both had trouble admitting you were homosexual, so I've assigned you extra work to be completed during free time." She gives them binders which they put in their bags. "Everyone else, we've moved on to step two, rediscovering your gender identity. I thought we'd start off with something fun. Playing football!"
Asher, much to his surprise, finds himself enjoying football. There's a certain pleasure in your body doing exactly what you want it to do, the pleasure he feels when he executes a difficult move exactly as the choreographer intended. He feels that pleasure when he gets the ball from Marlo, when he runs, when he throws, when he scores.
Every movement he makes is fluid and graceful. His back is straight, his chest lifted, his neck long. He's smiling.
"Dancing's better." To illustrate this point he does a tour de force.
"...you know, I've never really gotten most math, I can memorize formulas well enough but I know I'm not understanding it. I could teach you poetry or one of my weird crafty things and you can teach us math and Marlo can teach us both, I don't know, how to throw a football? If you both think that sounds like a good idea, sorry to volunteer you."
"Just lie. Say you jerked off about your teammates shirtless and the cute guy in your math class and, I don't know your kinks but whatever your kinks are, and Lee Pace as Thranduil in the Hobbit movies and Alan Rickman's voice and the abstract concept of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Don't actually say that last one." He's partway through a spring of rosemary.
He recites:
Today when persimmons ripen
Today when fox-kits come out of their den into snow
Today when the spotted egg releases its wren song
Today when the maple sets down its red leaves
Today when windows keep their promise to open
Today when fire keeps its promise to warm
Today when someone you love has died
or someone you never met has died
Today when someone you love has been born
or someone you will not meet has been born
Today when rain leaps to the waiting of roots in their dryness
Today when starlight bends to the roofs of the hungry and tired
Today when someone sits long inside his last sorrow
Today when someone steps into the heat of her first embrace
Today, let this light bless you
With these friends let it bless you
With snow-scent and lavender bless you
Let the vow of this day keep itself wildly and wholly
Spoken and silent, surprise you inside your ears
Sleeping and waking, unfold itself inside your eyes
Let its fierceness and tenderness hold you
Let its vastness be undisguised in all your days
He enunciates clearly and speaks slowly and with emotion.
Lev is a really good math teacher. He cares about the subject a lot and talks about it in a way that makes you care about it too; he has a gift for explanations that makes things click; he believes completely in your ability to understand the subject.
Perhaps relatedly, it's the first time other than when he was kissing Sasha that any of them have seen him not look pervasively miserable.
"Oh, you reminded me of someone who was of the belief that if I was up for one orgasm I must actually want three, and if I said I didn't want three then probably I was lying to spare his feelings, and either didn't realize or didn't care that that was actively painful. I dumped him after the second time this happened."
"People! — to be clear the thing that happened the second time was him apologizing profusely for whatever was causing me to lie and spare his feelings, not me having sex I didn't want.
And um, when I say you reminded me I just mean I was reminded, you are not particularly reminiscent. Your thing is cute."
A few days pass similarly. In the morning, they do some kind of athletic activity: football, boxing, paintball, basketball. In the afternoon, they learn to fix cars, split wood, do yardwork, and do financial planning. In the evening, there's free time, some of which Lev and Asher have to spend filling out extremely invasive workbook pages; the rest of the time they can swap tutoring.
He hadn't expected this camp to be so full of things he was good at.
He teaches Sasha how to throw footballs and punches, tries to teach Lev to do the same, does yardwork and splits wood and asks Sasha for help with fixing cars; he does his best to tune out Sasha feeding Asher worksheet answers and debates endlessly whether he'd keep their secret if he was asked; he learns math and how to weave things out of stripped pine branches.
It's — good.
He hadn't expected it to be good.
Ex-gay camp is surprisingly not terrible.
He's easily the best at boxing and paintball; Marlo can keep up with him at football and basketball, mostly due to Asher's unfamiliarity with the strategies or rules of either game; whether or not he's the best at them, he loves telling his body to do something and his body does it flawlessly. If people don't pull their punches on Sasha and Lev they will get the full force of a very real punch.
Asher is a fast learner, but car repair and yardwork bore him. In the evening he gets worksheet answers from Sasha and wants to know what Sasha's real answers to the questions would be; he dances and eavesdrops on math tutoring and punching lessons and tries to wrap up his practice in time to learn how to weave things out of branches.
He is very, very confused how any of this is supposed to make people straight.
Asher smiles at Sasha a lot and Lev a lot; it's particularly nice when Sasha is helping Lev with something because he can smile at them both at the same time. He cuddles Sasha every chance he gets; Sasha doesn't have the right instincts to be at all helpful in practicing lifts, but Asher does fish dives and presage lifts and tosses him up in the air; they talk about poetry and he listens when Sasha tells him about crafts and it's interesting, the way that Robin made poetry interesting.
For obvious reasons he doesn't touch Lev. Lev is an amazing teacher but Asher doesn't feel the same drive to listen to him that he does to Sasha. Asher finds himself thinking Lev doesn't know what he finds interesting, and wonders why he thinks that.
At night he ponders why he is so happy. He hasn't been this happy since Robin broke up with him. He concludes, after some thought, that he isn't lonely.
Ex-gay camp is pretty terrible.
They're correct that Lev is not comfortable with his masculinity or with essentially anything that is considered to be a "masculine activity." He attempts, cautiously, to participate in sports, buoyed by Marlo's teaching and Asher's willingness to punch people who hurt him. But he can't catch a ball or shoot things and hit what he's aiming at, and he's acutely embarrassed about his inadequacy. Exercise makes him feel exhausted and like he's going to vomit; his skin is sticky with sweat and he has a weird metallic taste like blood in the back of his mouth. Whatever a runner's high is, he's never felt one.
The afternoon is... better, in that he sometimes gets to sit down, and in that Sasha and Asher sometimes touch him on accident when they're helping him. Yardwork and woodsplitting suck as much as any other form of exercise. Financial planning is boring because he already knows how to do that, but at least he feels competent about something. Car repair is not that different from robotics, actually; this is unfortunate, because Lev doesn't particularly like robotics, but also fortunate, because he's very very good at them.
He thinks, every so often, I hate being a man. It's not that he wants to be a woman. He wants to be a man, but to be some other kind of man, where you're allowed to kiss guys and read books and play games with babies and do math, and where you don't ever have to do a sport or know how cars work. This is probably, he reflects, why he is going to end up gay after the end of ex-gay camp. He is not rediscovering his gender identity. He is rediscovering how much he hates his gender identity.
Lev feels guilty about how much he lives for the evenings. He wonders if it's self-deception to think this, but it's actually not a gay thing. Lev doesn't think about how cute Sasha is when Sasha's smiling about getting the right answer on a math problem. He doesn't think about people at all. He thinks about mathematical beauty and the slow steady buildup of knowledge, about sharing the grand human endeavor of knowing what the truth is with someone else.
His SAT books gather dust. Lev tries to convince himself that, actually, teaching people is the best way to study something. He does not succeed.
For the first time in his life, Lev has friends, people who actually want to spend time with him instead of just tolerating it. It's strange and uncomfortable and he's not sure if he likes it. He doesn't talk much, because this friendship thing is fragile, and if he talks too much he might ruin it. He usually brings a book to read protectively. But while he flips through the pages at a reasonable rate he doesn't actually read; he listens.
Lev hates learning to throw a football or a punch but he likes it when Marlo touches him to teach him to throw a football or a punch. He tries not to feel jealous every time Asher does some fucking ridiculous dance thing with Sasha, and sometimes succeeds; he's never really sure which one he's jealous of. He thinks a lot about touching Sasha's hair and resting his head in Asher's lap and having Marlo enfold him into a hug.
Lev does not show anyone his workbook. He feels excruciatingly embarrassed to see it written out in black and white: that he's never kissed a girl, gone on a date, or even had a crush on a girl; that he's pined uselessly after dozens of guys he never actually worked up the nerve to speak to; that he likes reading porn, rather than watching it, and only stories where they've spent tens of thousands of words building up to the sex, so he knows that they really love each other. It feels pathetic.
He turns every so often to the page in the workbook where he's checked 'no', he's never kissed a man. Lev should tell someone that Sasha kissed him. But Sasha would get kicked out of ex-gay camp, and Lev doesn't know where he'd go, or whether his family would hurt him. And as long as Sasha is here, he might recover from SSA, but if he isn't here, he definitely won't. And if Lev did tell, he wouldn't have friends anymore, except maybe Marlo. Asher would definitely punch him a lot, and he is fragile and easily broken. And-- as bad as it is for his recovery-- he doesn't want Sasha to leave. He wants to see Sasha smile, and to listen to him talk, and though he won't do anything about it he wants to kiss him and touch him and hold him.
It's not the actual activities. He did plenty of yard work before he got good enough at crafts that people would buy the things he made, he can handle sports, and he turns out to be surprisingly good at car repair.
It isn't the free time. He loves free time, loves the rare moments when Lev is explaining something and he looks happy, loves the rush of warmth when he wins a smile from Marlo, loves being thrown in the air and caught and seeing Asher's face. He enjoys making up Asher's history for him, enjoys having the time to sew pockets and patches and decorations onto his clothes and make them feel like they're really his.
He writes to Natalie, on the back of a postcard from Granada, Spain; he tells her about how beautiful the forest is and how wonderful his friends are and how he's learning metalworking; he laments his lack of access to the glue in the craft building and trusts that she'll get the hint.
It isn't the activities. Every individual hour he could point to is fine. It's —
— it's how he embroidered parsley and sage and rosemary and thyme onto the front of his jacket, because he knew they'd make him pick it out, stitch by careful stitch, if he embroidered a rose.
It's how he goes to the bathroom and puts in a pair of earrings that he'd smuggled into the camp and twirls them around and takes them out, just to make sure the holes don't close before he can get home. It's how he barely remembers the familiar swing of a pendant around his neck as he walks. It's how cold the back of his neck feels, without hair or even a ponytail to cover it; it's how when his hair falls into his eyes he can't tuck it back behind his ear, it isn't long enough. It's how he has to consider carefully whether he'll look too counterculture whenever he plans a project; it's how he'd give almost anything for eyeliner, or even for watercolor paint.
It's how they call him Alexander, here.
Asher spends some of the time he is in the bathroom wondering if he's gay, but concludes he is not because he was in love with Robin. Straight guys have sex with other guys in prison, and ex-gay camp is sort of like prison, in that he is here against his will and surrounded by men. So it makes sense.
The next day is — bad.
Not because of the camp, not really; it's a day just like any other, it just — gets to him differently. It's one of those days where, if he were home, he'd go to Natalie's house and put on her clothes and her makeup and pretend to himself that he didn't have to borrow it from someone else; it's one of those days where every time Christine calls him Alexander or refers to him as a man he wants to break down crying for reasons that don't make sense.
He does his best to hide it, during scheduled activities. It really isn't the sort of thing he wants to fill out a worksheet about.
Sasha is sad and that is suddenly very very important.
He doesn't know what Sasha is sad about. He touches Sasha a slightly excessive amount during paintball when Christine isn't looking and asks him lots of questions about embroidery during lunch and draws hearts where Sasha can see while Christine is lecturing about reasonable financial planning.
Asher is sweet but it. It doesn't help. The touching is nice but it also reminds him that he has a physical body that other people can interact with, which is horrible; the embroidery is nice to talk about but it reminds him of all the things he'd like to embroider onto his clothes and can't because it would be too counterculture or too feminine or too —
"...y'know, when you desperately need a hug but also the idea of having a physical form that other people can interact with is the worst thing ever and the idea of someone perceiving who you are in a way that isn't accurate makes you want to cry and also you kind of can't breathe because your clothes are too restrictive?"
"...I'm bad at being a guy," Lev says all in a rush. "I'm fat and ugly and my body doesn't do any of the things I want it to do and guys are supposed to-- like sports and physical things and being outside and taking risks and I can't, I can't do any of that. And they're supposed to be brave and I'm terrified all the time, and they're not supposed to cry and I do, and they're supposed to want to kiss girls and I don't, and they're not supposed to like kids and I love kids. I want to be a robot because robots don't have to have bodies and robots don't have to be genders, all robots have to do is spend all day thinking about math."
It is the longest speech Lev has given so far about any topic other than math.
"I don't know how to — ask? But whenever Christine started talking about how we're men yesterday I wanted to curl up in a hole and never leave it, and I keep noticing how my hair's short and it just feels wrong, there's nothing wrong with this hair or this body or those words or that name but they're not mine and everyone thinks they're mine and it's the worst thing."
He is maybe a little bit clinging to Asher.
"I get that need met in a bunch of ways, and this is one of them."
Sasha's skeptical that kissing is about filling a deep need to be treated affectionately rather than being a thing he does because it's fun and he likes it, but that's not particularly an argument he wants to have so he doesn't have it.
He literally cannot think of a way for being a straight man to not be a bad outcome.
"I get a job I love and have enough time to read books at the same rate as my to-read list grows and I have friends and a girlfriend who share at least some of my interests and whose company I enjoy."
"People become homosexual because of a trauma, called a root. Some roots are very serious traumas, like abuse or neglect from a parent. But some can seem very small, like feeling like you didn't really have any friends at a close age. You can't stop being homosexual by trying to be normal. You have to work through your root, which caused you to inappropriately sexualize your desire for closeness with other men."
"...the earliest I can tell was my best friend in elementary school —" and he describes Leo, who'd been the smallest kid on the playground and the smartest kid in their class and who Marlo had protected from bullies, and how Marlo had thought he just admired and wanted to be friends with him but in retrospect it was almost certainly a crush.
Asher spins a beautiful line of bullshit in response to Christine's questions. Oh, yes, he's now realized that he's been gay his whole life, he had a crush on this person and that person and the other person, he wants to kiss guys but he understands that he won't ever be able to experience real love unless he's straight, he absolutely wants to hear about how the recovery process will work...
He's not paying that much attention. He's thinking about Raine.
And when he gets out he taps her on the shoulder and says, "I'm gonna go to the bathroom."
Asher is pretty sure that dating with someone with a dick is the sort of thing that gets you kicked out of ex-gay camp and Christine is not going to pay any attention to "but Raine's a girl actually."
So he should probably control the amount his face lights up when he sees Raine.
He lets Raine see a flash of it though.
She might not be very good at dancing but is she good at being tossed in the air and caught? Or press lifts?
He thinks. "Happy, I guess? Like I'm less." He hesitates. "--It's kind of stupid, I don't think saying it has to have that effect, but if I say I'm homosexual and no one-- decides I'm gross and don't deserve to be loved and should be kicked out of society-- it makes me feel less. Broken."
"Yes. The secrecy and shame associated with homosexuality makes people feel like they're sick and wrong and can never get better, which ironically makes them more likely to experience same-sex attractions. When you admit that you're a homosexual, you can manage it."
And suddenly he's babbling. "Because I can't do any of the stuff people want me to do here. I can't play sports and I can't fix cars or do yardwork or any of it. It's like you have this little box you want men to fit into and I can't fit into the box no matter how hard I try and you keep wanting me to cut off bits of myself so that I can fit and I keep trying and trying but I'm bleeding all over the place and it hurts so much and it's still not good enough and, and you're complaining that I'm getting bloodstains all over the box because I'm not trying hard enough at being good at fitting into it--"
"We put seven homosexual teenagers in a single room and made them spend all of their time together. Some of them are going to kiss. It doesn't have to destroy your recovery unless you decide to let a slip turn into a bender-- to take some terms from our friends at Alcoholics Anonymous."
"If you want people to tell you something, you have to be a safe person for them to tell it to. If you've kissed another boy, or told him you loved him, or even had sex, I want you to tell me. But you might not, if you're afraid the other boy will be punished, or I'll be unfair to him in group therapy, or I'll kick him out of camp and his parents will hurt him. I don't want you to have any doubt in your mind about whether you should tell me when you've kissed another guy. So I won't ask who you kissed."
"Oh, right, that reminds me, there was something I was going to show you, c'mere?"
They don't have internet access and they'd said everyone's computers would be searched to make sure they didn't have anything inappropriate, but Raine's folder trees with innocuous-but-not-conspicuously-so names are deep and all her photos are hidden in text files where the thumbnails don't show anything, and if Asher sits so nobody else can screen then she has plenty of photos to share.
Raine is very glad he thinks so!
There are photos of Raine in makeup and her normal clothes, which have been embroidered and patched and covered in buttons, a handful in dresses, a handful in boy's formalwear. Raine had hair down to her collarbone; she'd usually wear it in a ponytail.
She looks much prettier with her old hair. It's not the hairstyle, it's her face. She looks more alive.
It occurs to Asher that they apparently weren't screening that well, and he too has a carefully hidden folder that he hadn't deleted because-- well, honestly, because he didn't really like thinking about the Robin folder at all.
"Let me see if I can find something."
Yep, still there.
Buried deep in the Robin folder is a giant file of pictures. Asher with his shirt off at the beach. Asher shirtless by the wall. Asher's ass, his back arched. Asher naked and happy, his cock soft. Several videos of him dancing naked. Asher jerking off, biting his lip, his head tossed back. Asher smiling languidly, his stomach splattered with come.
He used to have a lot more hair on his head.
"Yeah. And I'll send you my old project photos."
She'd bury them in a folder of English essays from freshman year or in the "Windows8_OS" tree, where nobody would look for them; she's got enough downloaded that actually combing through her computer would take way too much time and the staff at this camp just aren't as invested in finding it as she is in hiding it. The Internet kind of is the problem.
On Monday afternoon, they do not do yardwork.
Instead, Christine leads them all into the therapy room and says, "You've progressed to the next stage of therapy. We will continue to do gender-identity-affirming activities in the morning, but in the afternoon we're going to do group therapy."
"For the next three weeks, we'll work on finding our roots. After that, we'll spend three weeks on nonsexual intimacy with men, three weeks on developing relationships with women, and two weeks on discharge planning and graduation. Throughout the program, we'll have special sessions on other topics, like alcohol and drug abuse, finding and submitting to your Higher Power, self-care, and identifying and avoiding your triggers."
"Your root is the cause of your homosexuality. All homosexuals experienced some pain or trauma in early life that caused them to inappropriately sexualize their natural desire for intimacy with other men. For some, their root is parental abuse or neglect. Others experience bad parenting that is not abusive, such as overbearing and intrusive mothers or distant and demanding fathers. Still others are bullied or rejected by their peers, perhaps because they are sensitive or gentle. Some experience sexual abuse in childhood or during puberty. And some had parents that failed to model appropriate gender roles and a loving relationship."
"Over the next three weeks, you'll hear testimonies from ex-gays about their roots and talk in group about your own experiences. At the end of three weeks, you'll be expected to share with the group what your root is and how it led to your homosexual behavior. Does anyone have any questions?"
Christine answers some more questions from Andre and Clayton, then gives her own testimony.
She had distant and emotionally neglectful parents as a teenager. She ran away from home at fourteen and lived on the streets, doing sex work to survive. She took a lot of drugs, dated a woman named Rachel who was also a homeless teenage sex worker, and had unprotected sex with men and women. Eventually at seventeen she went to ex-gay camp, found God, and recovered from her homosexuality. She has not had homosexual sex since she was nineteen.
Does anybody have questions about her testimony?
"Thank you. I like you too. You're patient and kind and you try really hard and you want to be a good person." And you have the kind of abs that until now I thought were made up by Hollywood as an unrealistic beauty standard, he does not say, because he is trying really hard not to be gay.
He should maybe not sit with Marlo because Marlo makes him think extremely homosexual thoughts.
But on the other hand Marlo is progressing really far in his recovery from homosexuality and is not going to kiss him, and Marlo likes him.
Does Marlo want to hear about Brandon Sanderson.
He listens and occasionally asks questions for all of dinner and all of free time and until Clayton throws a pillow at Lev's head, at which point he laughs and apologizes to Clayton and goes over to his bed o the other side of the dorm and definitely does not dream about how good Lev's smile is and how soft his hands are and how good it would be to kiss him.
He shrugs. "In theory. I had a bar mitzvah because not having one would have meant a three-year fight with my parents and I know most of the prayers and I think the Song of Songs is gorgeous, I go to a seder every Passover and we do a Shabbat dinner when my parents are both home on Friday night, but I'm not particularly observant and turns out that when you spend your Saturday evenings learning a pagan ritual in secret you get kind of sincere about it even if it was originally for drama class.
And my school still hasn't unbanned the Bacchae, so I'll probably be spending next year sneaking out to a field to teach the freshmen."
They only get to do sports half the time in the morning now, which is clearly not enough sports. Asher finds himself twitching constantly with nervous energy. He's not used to being this sedentary.
Asher is eventually convinced that falsely accusing his parents of abuse would probably cause them not to pay for his apartment. So instead he gets teary and emotional about how alone he felt when his mother abandoned him at day care, like her work was more important than he was, how confusing it was that she didn't play her appropriate feminine role. He recalls how his father used to miss some of his dance recitals but always went to all his sister's soccer games, which left him with an unmet need for male affection. He questions, tearily, whether more heterosexual male role models in dance would have helped him stay straight.
It's actually kind of fun.
Raine is so beautiful. He wants to spend every spare moment he can with her, wants to learn everything about her. He asks for a secret pocket in his clothes, not because he needs it, but so he can carry around something she made with him all the time. Every other night, they sneak into the bathroom and fuck. It feels a bit disloyal to Robin to say that it's better than sex with Robin, but it is. Raine pins him to the wall and puts a hand on his throat and hurts him and tells him what to do, and he's not really sure why he likes this so much but it makes him feel right and safe and home.
Sasha talks about being friendless in early elementary school, and how the people who eventually befriended him were all girls, talks about his friends — he doesn't name Natalie in particular — teaching him how to braid hair and put on makeup, talks about how he would come up with games that would involve the boy he had a crush on tying him up with jump ropes and talks about how being kissed felt affectionate and loving and warm. He talks about how both his parents worked and treated the library as a daycare; he talks about reading Greek myths and vampire novels. He carefully avoids talking about crafts; he doesn't want to be forced to give them up.
Raine has kind of a lot of sex with Asher — he's good at it, he's so good for her, he melts when she puts a hand on his throat. She kind of misses subbing, but Asher makes the softest face when she doms him and sometimes it's difficult to wait an entire day. She sews a secret pocket into his clothes, offers to embroider them (no flowers, which is unfortunate, but she can add rainclouds, add parsley and sage and rosemary and thyme to match her own jacket, if he wants).
The food at camp is... less appealing than it was. She's not really sure why; maybe it's that they were trying harder at the beginning of the session. Regardless, she has to make herself eat at meals, now.
She doesn't try to reach out to Lev, but she pays attention.
Lev doesn't talk in group. Christine tries to bring him out but all she gets are monosyllables.
He knows he should talk in group. He's not going to get better unless he can tell people what's wrong with him. But every time he thinks about it he just freezes up and wants to die. He can't shake the thought that if he tells someone then they'll know how much of a failure he is.
Lev spends a lot of time around Marlo. He talks incessantly, and worries that he's boring Marlo, but Marlo seeks him out and asks questions that show that he was listening and in general it seems like Marlo actually likes him and wants to spend time with him. Lev is perfectly aware that part of the reason he wants to spend so much time with Marlo is that Marlo has a beautiful smile and a beautiful body and lips that would be so nice to kiss, but... Marlo seems to be doing really well in ex-gay therapy, and wouldn't kiss him, and Christine said it was okay to have crushes as long as he didn't put himself in a situation to do anything about them. When he addressed his root, they'd go away.
He answers questions in group, is happy to ask them; he can tell that Christine wants him to talk more, but there's nothing else to say, nothing else he knows with enough certainty that he can share it. He still has no idea what his root is — his parents love him and want the best for him, he had teachers and coaches and plenty of role models, he hasn't been abused, he knows he's well-liked — it's hard to tell.
He spends a lot of time around Lev. He probably shouldn't, but it's very very difficult to say no when Lev needs something, even when it's something that Marlo knows he shouldn't give.
"I uh. I haven't really had friends ever. No one really bullied me but no one really paid any attention to me either? When I was a kid I could go weeks where I only interacted with my parents and my teachers. I've never gone to somebody's birthday party or gone over to their house to hang out or anything like that. So it makes sense that I would really want friendship and that desire for friendship would end up... sexualized."
Like he's sexualizing his desire for friendship with Marlo right now.
He makes a happy little noise and nuzzles Marlo's chest.
"I mean-- I don't want to say my parents are bad. They love me and they want the best things for me. They made a lot of sacrifices to come to America and they don't want me to be poor the way they are and, and it's hard to get into a good school. But Christine said the thing about distant and demanding parents and... I got a B once in my entire life and they yelled at me for three hours and then I was grounded until my next report card? I mean, not that I go anywhere but. It's the principle of the thing."
"It's not that bad. They love me. Probably if I were normal it wouldn't be a root, but." He nuzzles Marlo some more and then rests his head on Marlo's shoulder. This is really nice. "All I have to do is get a perfect score on my SATs and get straight As and qualify for the USAMO and become straight and then my parents will be proud of me."
He can't move or do anything because it might make Marlo notice, even though literally the only thing he can think about is how much he wants to. Marlo is warm and he feels safe and protected and like someone cares about him. It feels like electricity is dancing along his skin.
Marlo doesn't usually like kissing; he'd tried, with Melissa, but it had always been a thing he did for her, not a thing he did for himself.
Kissing Lev is completely different. Lev is — warm, and soft, and Marlo doesn't have to think about where to put his hands or how to tilt his head, it just — happens.
"I want to kiss you and hold your hand and give you presents and celebrate Valentine's Day and go out on long walks and read all your favorite books. And I don't want to do anything that involves drugs or pagan rituals or wearing a dress. And I guess if I decide to be gay and all the other gay people are wearing dresses and taking drugs we can just. Be gay by ourselves."
They play football the next day, and Marlo keeps him safe and shows him how to throw the ball, and Lev loves him.
They eat lunch, and Lev's leg brushes against Marlo's leg, and Marlo smiles when Lev makes a joke, and Lev loves him.
They do group, and Lev is about to answer Christine's question in a monosyllable, and then he looks over and sees Marlo and smiles at him and says that he thinks his root is that he was very lonely as a kid and his parents had... expectations... and it's not like it's an unreasonable expectation that Lev qualify for USAMO but maybe it would be a good thing if his parents being proud of him was not completely dependent on it. And Lev loves him.
They play football, and Marlo keeps Lev from getting tackled and shows him again how to throw the ball, and Lev smiles, and Marlo loves him.
They eat lunch and their legs brush together and Lev makes jokes and Marlo loves him.
They do group and Lev shares and Marlo is so proud of him, is so proud to have given him that confidence, and Lev smiles and Marlo loves him, loves him, loves him.
They can talk quietly tomorrow evening while Raine's sewing and Asher's pretending to work on his workbook and Andre is practicing throwing a football, close enough to make sure they can't kiss, far enough away that it's hard to hear what they're saying.
"What was that all about last night?"
Okay, so she's starting with a totally fresh slate.
"So I really like getting tied up, and a variety of things I'm putting under the banner of 'getting tied up' because I like them for the same reason, and — not whipping, but being bitten and thrown into walls, and if you gave me a collar you wouldn't be making me do anything. I can explain the appeal of most kinks but it's easier with ones I personally have, if you want me to."
"Getting tied up, for me anyway, is about trust — it's okay, I can relax, you've got me, I'm safe — but the fact that it feels like a full-body hug and then you can also hug me doesn't hurt. You like being bitten and choked, I probably don't have to explain that one. The point of a collar, if I ever had a chance to wear one for somebody which I haven't, would be signalling that I'm theirs, it's like the thing you do with embroidery but it's a more recognized symbol. Does that make sense?"
"Praise kink exists but it'll be hard to find porn of people who are simultaneously telling you you've done well and getting thrown into walls, in porn people usually either dom or sub but not both. I know a couple of tumblr artists who could probably be persuaded, though."
"Mostly a joke," Ron says. "I just-- try to give you kids a space where you can be yourself and get the things you need and have some time to think about what you want for yourself, not what your parents or teachers or Chris want for you. Sometimes the kid needs an STI test, or to see a doctor, or hormones, or clothes they feel okay in. Sometimes they need to talk to a real adult gay person. Sometimes they need to be alone with their friends or boyfriends or girlfriends. Sometimes they just need to eat a big bowl of popcorn and watch Veggie Tales until they feel okay." He pauses. "They pretty much always need cookies."
The library has shelves and shelves of books; each shelf is labeled with a topic. "Classic LGBT Literature" takes up a few shelves, as does "Modern LGBT Literature" and "LGBT YA" and "LGBT Romances" and "Erotica"; there's "Queer History" and "Queer Ethnography" and "Relationship Advice" and "Sex Education." But there are also other shelves: "Atheism" and "World Religions", "Evolution" and "the Big Bang Theory", "Recovery from Trauma" and "Spiritual Abuse."
Lev makes a beeline to the "atheism" shelf, ponders it for a bit, and picks up a book called Breaking the Spell: Religion As Natural Phenomenon.
Lev reads:
There is asymmetry: atheists in general welcome the most intensive and objective examination of their views, practices, and reasons . . . The religious, in contrast, often bristle at the impertinence, the lack of respect, the sacrilege, implied by anybody who wants to investigate their views.
And it feels like his heart has dropped into his stomach.
"No, see, I get to date the really hot, noble paladin type who promises he will keep me safe and take care of me and has really good abs. And you... get to hear plot summaries of fantasy novels you haven't read? I really don't understand what you get out of this relationship at all."
"Before I came here I had a girlfriend. She's — perfect, she's beautiful and smart and kind and funny, and I thought I loved her because that's what you do with your smart funny beautiful girlfriend, and I never once noticed that I didn't actually like touching her or going on dates with her or kissing her, because I'm broken, and the only reason I have any idea what love feels like is that now I know you."
"Chris doesn't kick people out of True Directions. H-- She'll encourage you to be straight, but that's it. Chris believes that you can't change unless you want to change, and if you don't want to change the best thing True Directions can do for you is keep you around and give you another chance. But if you come here often, Chris will report to your parents that you're still gay, and you'll get whatever consequences you can expect from that."
"Fortunately, there's another resource I can provide. I have a network throughout the country of people who are supportive of gay teenagers. If you're disowned, or if you'd rather not live with your parents for any reason, I can find you someone to stay with. If you're interested, I can connect you to some people who participated in the network, as well as some people who might be willing to take you in."
Lev eats the cookies without looking up.
Eventually he carefully transfers Marlo off his shoulder, collects six more books from the "atheism" shelf, returns Marlo to his shoulder, and keeps reading.
When the sun starts to rise, he shakes Marlo and says, "we should get going."
Lev asks a bunch of questions and does not seem super convinced.
He does, however, go with Marlo to services.
There are a truly excessive number of sermons. Every time he thinks they're done there's someone else giving another sermon. All the children are off at Sunday school (?) so when he's bored he can't go play peek-a-boo with a toddler in the next pew. The prayers are spoken instead of sung, and Lev realizes that there's no reason for Christians to pray in Hebrew but it's still really weird to pray in English, and mostly the guy up front says prayers instead of everyone saying them. Lev does not approve of this. Prayers are supposed to be communal and for everyone.
It is pretty strange and he is not very convinced that God wants to be worshipped in this way.
"Ron-- that's the guy who runs ex-ex-gay camp-- says he's been doing this for ten years and he's never known Christine to miss that someone was dating someone else. She doesn't kick you out for it. She just... talks to you and tries to get you to want to be straight? And if that doesn't work she tells your parents at the end of the session that it didn't work."
He seems to have an interest in small, smart boys he can protect, so perhaps his homosexuality is sexualizing the normal male emotional need to be chivalrous and protect the weak. Does he have an idea of someone he might have failed to protect in the past? Or perhaps unreasonable expectations on the part of his parents?
...she doesn't know how to articulate "your concept of appropriate gender roles is too narrow for most human beings and, additionally, I'm being forced into the wrong one" in a way Christine will listen to.
"It's too small and the wrong shape," she says instead, more insistently.
Asher realizes ten minutes into his session that if he's running off with Ron he doesn't have to maintain a good relationship with his parents, and immediately starts inventing the most lurid possible root. His root is that his parents are members of a Satanic sex cult. They have sex with dead bodies and live animals for ritual purposes. His mom's head used to spin around and vomit pea soup. He lost his virginity to Lilith herself when he hit puberty and that traumatized him so much that he hasn't been able to experience normal heterosexual loving since.
Lev has no idea what happened in his one-on-one session. He's pretty sure he didn't confess to Christine anything about Marlo or Ron, but he also probably zoned out for three minutes straight staring at the tasteful flower picture on her wall.
As soon as it's over he collapses in bed and sleeps for twelve hours.
Asher enjoys himself greatly in group therapy. He has been gangbanged by incubi! (But not succubi. They wanted to keep his homosexuality pure.) Satan erased his parents' memories which caused them to send him to ex-gay camp! He used dance to ward off demons because it turns out that demons are repelled by the power of classical music which is-- fortunately-- why Christine forbade rock music.
In the evenings he sneaks off with Raine. If Christine knows, there's no point keeping it secret. They fuck. He recites her poetry. He carves "Asher + Raine <3" into a tree so that she can look at it when he's gone.
Lev is distracted in group. He talks to Marlo a lot about Christianity; he is unconvinced. When he's supposed to be taking notes on the causes of homosexuality or how to prevent relapses, he writes long lists of the evidence for and against the existence of God.
If he's an atheist or-- worse-- a Christian, he's going to be a disappointment, no matter what. But if he decides to believe to make his parents happy, he'll hate himself.
Raine's story in group therapy is still "rejection by same-sex peers." She keeps quiet about crafts, starts hiding her thread in the secret internal pockets in her clothes, under her mattress, inside her pillowcase and fitted sheet, finds something else to do with her hands when Christine is around. (She's not under the impression that she's successfully hiding that she still sews, but out of sight is — a little closer to out of mind.) Hiding needles is harder but she finds places to put them where she won't get poked.
She eats less and less. She's getting better at hiding it, but at some point it's not going to be possible to hide. In the evenings she has sex with Asher and listens to his poetry and cuddles him and lets herself cling.
She's going to miss him a lot, when he goes.
Marlo is quiet in group; he'll talk about his parents when he's pushed, but usually he just listens. He keeps a straight face at Asher's stories, is appropriately sympathetic at Raine's. He talks to Lev about Christianity, and knows that he isn't very convincing.
He doesn't know — there are a lot of things he doesn't know.
Lev, on the other hand, looks really really uncomfortable. It is unclear even to him to what extent this is because he is frightened of being gay involving crossdressing, and to what extent this is because he wants to make out with Raine, and to what extent this is because he's concerned that maybe he's cheating on Marlo in his mind by wanting to make out with Raine.
Meanwhile--
"The girl stuff is here."
Ron opens the closet to reveal skirts, dresses, shoes, and girls' shirts in various sizes, from a very petite girl to Asher. The makeup is neatly organized by skin tone and color. There are drawers full of bras and panties with the tags still on, sports tape and gaffes for tucking, and breast forms.
"Thank you," Raine says again, and she sounds almost in awe.
She doesn't actually know how to use breast forms but she picks out a dress (dark purple with the kind of skirt that looks like it'll swish) that'll fit without them and underwear that look like they'll be soft and vanishes into the bathroom to change.
By the time Lev finds her she has winged eyeliner and shiny bronze lipstick and she looks happier than he's ever seen her.
Mmmm. Asher's kissed Raine while she's all soft and warm and glowy before, but — it's different in a bed, different with the comforting pressure of rope around her wrists, different in clothes that don't feel like they belong to someone who doesn't exist and never did, different when she doesn't feel trapped.
He takes the lube from Asher, pours some of it onto his hands, and starts to fuck himself with his fingers.
It's terrifying to be watched, and he just came so he doesn't have the lust/desperation to stop him from thinking. But Marlo loves him, Marlo wants him, he's doing this for Marlo, and he can't be scared while Marlo is there holding him and watching him.
He makes little whimpery noises and bites his lip.
"I recognize that this doesn't mean a lot coming from me on account of who I am as a person, but that's not actually how subcultures work. Queer men are more likely to be in dance and like musicals than baseline, partially because those are seen as gay things to do, but I have known and slept with plenty of gay men who were, like, football players who'd never touched a cast album in their lives."
And Raine drafts a letter to Natalie in her head and does her best not to worry about something she can't change.
Agreeing to go back to camp is — hard. She makes herself eat that day, and the next, and the next, and she spends as much time with Asher as she can. She writes to Natalie and gets a package back with a letter and a flashlight and two spare batteries; when she opens the battery compartment a mini flash drive falls out, and she puts it in an internal pocket and gives it to Lev next time they're unsupervised.
She's desperate, when she and Asher are alone together.
(She's desperate when they're not.)
There's no point in being subtle.
Asher spends every evening with her, and they sneak off to Ron's as often as they can. He tries to think of things he'd want to do if they never got to see each other again. They fuck. He tells her constantly that he loves her. He shows her all his favorite dances, tells her all his favorite stories and all his favorite jokes, shows her his favorite musicals, takes pictures of her in dresses so he can keep them.
He tries not to think about how long he'll wait for her before he decides that Raine isn't going to go to him. It would be unreasonable for the answer to be 'forever.' He kind of guesses that the answer might be 'forever.'
Lev is having unfamiliar experiences like "being sexually satisfied" and "being loved" and "having someone be proud of you" and "getting hugged." Perhaps naturally, he is very happy.
Being gay, if anything, makes step three easier. He glances at Marlo in group and says that he thinks that his parents should have been proud of him whatever his test scores are; he thinks about the way Marlo loves him and he tells Christine that he thinks he deserves to be loved, unconditionally, for who he is; he thinks about how easy it is to talk to Marlo and realizes that he has been very lonely for a very long time. Maybe his whole life.
When they get to the 'nonsexual intimacy' step, he's going to have to make a decision. But for right now he can get better and date Marlo and he is so so happy.
He reads the books Raine gave him. He's pretty sure he's an atheist.
Sometimes — when Lev is in a different room, or in the middle of the night when he can't sleep and doesn't have Lev in his arms — there are — doubts. He worries about whether this is evil after all, about whether he's hurting Lev, about what would you do if you really loved him.
And sometimes Lev glances at him and says "My parents should have been proud of me whatever my test scores are," and there's too much pride — pride in Lev, pride in himself for having given that to Lev — and fierce protective love to be worried about anything at all.
She doesn't notice; she isn't making eye contact with anyone.
(If she makes a bracelet out of wire she won't have to figure out how to mold something this complicated — or she could go for a simpler shape, but she doesn't have anything to go into the setting — there are beads in the craft building, if she can just get into the craft building, or she brought bits of sea glass that could be made into pendants; you can't drill into glass but if you wrapped it with wire —)
(It's not enough of a distraction. Nothing would be. But it helps.)
"Well, I hadn't really met anyone who was openly gay before camp. Uh. R-- Sasha makes a lot of art and he's kind of had sex with a lot of people? And he worships Bacchus?" And he dresses like a girl and wears makeup and I lost my virginity to him in an orgy and he likes to be tied up and hurt, Lev does not add.
"Mental health disorders are very common among homosexual men. They are twice as likely to experience depression, 1.5 times as likely to experience anxiety, 1.5 times as likely to abuse substances, and 2.5 times as likely to attempt suicide. As many as a third of people who attempt suicide may be homosexual men."
"Gay relationships are also at higher risk of intimate partner violence. Forty percent of gay men have been abused by a romantic partner. Would you mind if we went through a list of red flags that a relationship may turn abusive? You don't have to tell me what the answers are for you and Marlo, I just want to give you a chance to think about them."
She reads.
"Wanting to move very quickly into a relationship. Flattering you constantly. Seeming too good to be true. Wanting you all to himself. Trying to get you to spend less time with your friends or family. Wants to know where you are all the time. Wants to spend as much time as possible with you. Tries to get you to stop participating in certain activities. Makes life plans with you after only knowing you for a short time."
He feels kind of sick. "That's... a lot."
And-- he and Marlo have only been together for a few weeks, and they're at ex-gay camp, and he still slept with two other people. In the few weeks where he was living as a gay man, he had sex with three different people, he had an orgy, he took drugs-- there's no reason to believe Christine is wrong about any of it.
What if he gave up his family for a relationship with Marlo and then Marlo broke up with him eighteen months from now?
What if he gave up his family for a relationship with Marlo and then Marlo-- he wouldn't, he would never, Marlo loves him-- but Christine said they pretended to love you, early on, no one would stay in a relationship with an abuser if they weren't sweet and romantic to begin with--
"Even if you and Marlo defied the odds and were a stable monogamous gay couple, children need a mother and a father to thrive. You would never be able to give your child the special bonding relationship of breastfeeding. You wouldn't be able to nurture them in the special way that a mother can. Women have a special understanding of infants and children that men don't."
"And though I don't want to bring it up-- the various ways that people are broken sexually are correlated with each other. A person who struggles with homosexuality, or who has one paraphilia, is more likely to have others. That's why sadomasochism is so common in the gay community. And that's also why gay men are more likely to desire inappropriate relationships with children."
"Marlo and I are probably going to have sex with other people," he says. His voice is quiet, a little monotonous. "Maybe lots of other people. We might get STDs. We might get HIV. I wouldn't-- feel safe and secure in the relationship because he's seeing other people. I might-- someone might offer me drugs and I'll say 'yes' and I could wind up addicted. He might get bored with me after a while and break up with me. He might-- he might hit me, or call me names, or-- or rape me, or the kids, if we have them. Even if he doesn't we wouldn't end up doing right by the kids."