Poante was trying to keep her from helping people. She didn't mean to hurt him but it was important to leave and she made a decision quickly that turned out to not be the best one.
No, none of the red haired people welcomed her, she says with an accusatory glare. Why did she ask that?
People told her before she went that Amenta has laws that are for the good of everyone that you have to follow and you will get in trouble if you don't. She thinks that if helping people is wrong than it's not for the good of everyone and it's important to help people even when you're not supposed to. Even when you can't help people, it's still important.
Cheep helped her. No one else did, she had to do it all alone. She's brave though, even if she's alone.
"I thought it was possible I could acc-id-dentally hurt the Poante. I thought I would make Tish and Haemi sad. I thought people might be sad if I left the red haired place without showering, but I didn't do that till it was on fire and I had to. I didn't know till later that I might make it so all the red haired people had to leave their homes and then they'd get burned down and and " - she starts crying for a bit at that point - "I didn't know that would happen and I'm sorry about it. I don't think that's what you care about though cause if you did this place might be different. But maybe I'm wrong?"
She has a hopeful expression on her face as she asks that question, in spite of everything.